Is Your Mate Controlling You?

Do you ever say, "He won't let me cut my hair.", "She won't let me

go shopping by myself.", or "He won't let me get a job."? If any

of this sounds familiar your mate is controlling you.

How do you expect to be happy if you can't make your own deci-

sions? 

Is your mate stopping you from...

• going back to school
• coloring your hair
• wearing what you want
• eating healthy
• seeing your friends
• seeing your family
• driving a car
• wearing makeup
• exercising
• losing weight
• following your dreams
• BEING HAPPY?!!!
  

You shouldn't be with someone who won't let you be you. You 

deserve to be the person you want to be, not the person someone

else wants you to be.

10 Reasons Why People Are Mean

 

Being mean is a cry for help. Mean people want their problems solved.

They have trouble figuring out how to solve, or deal with the issues 

they're having. When someone isn't happy it doesn't give them the

right to be cruel, but try to treat them with kindness.

 

A mean person might...

 

• be in physical pain
• be worried about a loved one
• have lost a loved one
• be worried about money
• be hungry
• have been abused 
• have low self-esteem
• have a jealous personality
• be stressed out 
• be mentally ill 
  

If You're A Racist You Have Low Self-esteem

If you believe one skin color is superior to another you're 
wrong. If you've grown up being told that your race is 
smarter, more attractive, or better than another...you've

been lied to. If you put people down, because their color 

is different from yours you're a racist, and you have low

self-esteem.

People with self-esteem don't put others down because

of their race, nation, or ethnicity. People with self-esteem

spread happiness, positivity, peace, and love. They don't

spread sadness, negativity, unrest, or hate.

If you're a racist you don't have to stay that way. Find 

people of other races to spend time with. Read about the

history of other nations, or watch documentaries about

the history of other ethnicities. When you let go of the

hate you will be more content and happier.

Are People Taking Advantage of You?

There is nothing wrong with helping someone, but when you start to feel the

help has gone to far, that's when you know someone is taking advantage of 

you.

I know a man who started driving for Uber, so he could pay off his large medi-

cal bills. When he told his mom he was driving for Uber, she started asking 

him for money. She asked him to pay some of her bills too, and she knew

about his financial issues.

I also know a woman who started dating a guy she met online, and not long 

after they met, he talked her into getting a credit card. Once she got the credit 

card, she charged some stuff for him: a game system, games, and even a 

cellphone. They didn't last long after that. He got what he wanted and she's left 

with the debt.

How do you keep people from taking advantage of you?...

• Say no

          Even if you feel guilty say no, because what that person is requesting

          isn't good for you, it's only good for them.

• Do a small favor that won't hurt you.

          If you do something small for someone test them out to see if it was

          a one time thing. If after the small favor they want more and more, it's

          time to say "no" to them too.